It is quite ironic that I am constantly being mistaken for a mixed race person…and I am not even mixed race…
I will not get offended, or hold it against people who assume I am of a mixed heritage, in the traditional sense (as I am half Chinese and half Vietnamese – barely a mix). Although, I do not think I look like a mixed person. Nonetheless, I do accept that looks are very complex and range widely, so I do understand where people may get confused. I am honestly flattered when people ask me if I am mixed of Spanish, Filipino, or even sometimes an African heritage (and believe me when I say, people have questioned me about a LOT of random ethnicities too). Whasian? Blasain? What are you? Now things become complicated…
Be careful with how you ask a person about their ethnic origin. I personally do not mind people asking me about my ethnic background, but it is the way people phrase the questions that offends me. Avoid saying the following:
- “What ARE you?”
- “Where are you FROM from?”
- “Where are you from ORIGINALLY?”
Just stop it already, these jokes are going to make me laugh. Ha.Ha. Ha. Oh, you were not joking?
Sometimes when people ask me about my heritage, I know it is just innocent curiosity. However, when people informed me that it was a “good” thing to be mistaken as a mixed race person, I realised that was a subtle insult to my own ethnicity. It is a generally accepted statement that mixed race people are beautiful (and of course they are, but so is everybody). To assume that in order for me to be beautiful, I must be mixed race, is extremely offensive to me. Does that mean someone like myself, who is from an Asian heritage, cannot be beautiful from being Asian alone? That is messed up. Of course I can! So can everybody else!
People also assume that I am mixed because of my “posh” British accent (it is not posh, I just use the English language correctly, but some beg to differ). Who knew that a person of Asian heritage could actually be born and raised in an English speaking country, and consequently master the English language?! Shocker!!! (That was sarcasm by the way, in case you did not get it – another British trait I have picked up from being British and all that jazz…)
Sometimes, I get confused about where I belong and who I’m supposed to be. I am too “Asian” for the British community, and too “British” for the Asian community. Help!
We are all probably a mix of various ethnic backgrounds, but do not assume that things such as beauty and language acquisition belongs to an elite group of people.
Let me just say, mixed or not mixed, you are all BEAUTIFUL, all races, all ethnicities, all languages, and all people – everyone is beautiful! Beauty is not mutually exclusive to a select race or ethnicity.
Just think before you speak, and remember, that beauty is more than just appearance.